Bob & Neal
This wedding was very special to me. I have gotten to know Bobby over the last two years and I was extremely honored when he asked me to photograph his wedding. Knowing the great person that Bobby is I imagined that Neal had to be just as wonderful…and he is:) They were married at Tower House Farm on Martha’s Vineyard. This place has the most spectacular view…it was incredible. They got the best day–okay, maybe slightly warm–but at night the 50 white lanterns inside the tent blew softly in the ocean breeze and it was the most surreal place to be. So beautiful! We even stayed extra long to dance with this crowd:)
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During the ceremony two friends stood up to do readings. What struck me about this was how personalized each of these readings were. Bobby’s friend Jessica stood up and read an excerpt from the children’s book “The Velveteen Rabbit.” I loved this not only because The Velveteen Rabbit was one of my favorite stories (or because I had a velveteen rabbit stuffed animal that I nearly loved to death) but because I always thought the story was so great. This is the excerpt and you can imagine that I was not the only one holding back tears during this ceremony or this reading:
“What is REAL?” asked the Rabbit one day…”Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?”
“Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin Horse. “It’s a thing that happens to you. When [someone] loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.”
“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.
“Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. “When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.”
“Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?”
“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse.”You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in your joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”
Whew…even now this one gets me.
Bobby and Neal addressed their guests at the end of the night saying that they understood that in no other state (well, maybe one other) in no other time in history could this day be possible, and that they were honored to have their family and friends to share in it with them. We agree, and we also were honored to share in your day with you both. You two truly were a joy to photograph:)